{Our Wedding} Finding The Venue

UPDATE: As much as I LOVED this venue for our wedding, everything took a sour turn and the venue ended up turning into a nightmare.....Read about the Radonich Ranch venue nightmare here. Holy Moly this has been quite the morning! I haven't been able to sit down and write a blog post as I have been busy talking to the coordinator of the venue I love :) I always have a good reason!

Yep, you read it right. Going to book, like in real life, like that point of the wedding planning I never thought I would get to. Yep, I'm there! And boy has it been a journey.

Source: 100 Layer Cake

When I first started all of this, I told myself (and all of you) to hold out for the perfect venue with the perfect price, not to settle for something less, and even if it takes forever, don't give up. Well, I just barely followed my own advice! I was looking for so long at so many places. I almost settled on some amazing and totally over budget venues many times. Each time I knew I wouldn't be happy feeling ripped off, but that there seemed to be no other solution. The idea of looking on herecomestheguide.com one more time made me want to die. I gave up many times, and came back to it many times. I have created some tips to venue searching in case it helps any of you that are going through hell finding the venue.

Google It: Whenever I find a venue that I like, I search google images to get more photos of the space, inspiration from other weddings held there, and an overall reality on the feel of the space. When I found Vignette Vintage Ranch I did that and found some really great weddings, so I had an idea of how it all went and what the feel of the space was going to be.

Talk It Over: Right before going to see the space, I prepped myself for it. A few of my BM's and I talked about different ideas I wanted to add to the wedding and how (or if) those would fit in. Turns out that all the various ideas I wanted for my wedding would fit perfectly with this space. I also realized that the runner-up venues, weren't the right style for the ideas I had. This made me mentally prepared to picture everything in the space when we went to see it.

Prioritize: No venue is going to have every single thing you ever want, especially if you are in a budget. You sort of have to prioritize whats important and what isn't. I actually didn't have to do that too much. Because of the price, I was able to keep my whole guest list and the one thing I really wanted, fire pits, I was able to negotiate and get them. Yay for that.

Get Inspired: If you have a vision of your wedding and a style you are going for, it makes it a lot easier to picture yourself and your wedding in that space. Get inspired with ideas for your wedding so you know what you want. Vineyard, Rustic, Barn, etc. This can definitely be rather hard, especially if you are taking items from so many different styles, but once you get the vision together, I swear it will make it so much easier.

Don't Give Up: I'll be the first to say it, easier said than done! I totally know! You want to settle and you want to go over budget just to get it over with. But in reality you probably won't be very happy in the end. Going over budget either means more stress and cutting out people or ideas you really wanted and neither of those are really fun. I literally waited for 8 months of constant searching and feeling like nothing would ever pop up. I felt like I had seen every venue again and again. If you just wait it out, you will find something.

You'll Be Surprised: When you find the venue, you will definitely be surprised about it all, and it will feel amazing! I talked to the coordinator of our venue and it turns out she does the centerpiece flowers, supplies mason jars, old boxes, milk jars, apothecary jars, antique old linens, etc. SCORE! That is going to save me a lot of money right there! On top of all that, the price is far. See, it somehow all worked out and everything fell into place, though I pretty much assumed it never would.

Overall, this place is perfect for me. It won't stretch my budget to an ungodly amount and I will still be able to have everyone there that I want to be there. (Except Bear sad face) I get to incorporate all the ideas I have into this space, and best of all, it will all turn out perfectly! I never really knew that this is what I was envisioning this whole time, but it totally is!

Anyone else have really good suggestions for those in venue turmoil??? It's such a hard process.

Hey, check out the journey I have taken to finding a venue from the original Aptos dilemma, to the back yard wedding pros and cons, including the actual backyard I would have it in! Also, there was the time I was going to pay a ridiculous amount in site fees. Down to the time where I just sent a plea for help on the blog! And finally, pictures of the actual wedding venue!

How am I planning on decorating this amazing venue?? Check out a few of my favorite things I plan to incorporate, S'more favors, my actual wedding favors pies,  and some really cool centerpieces that I love!

Venue: CHECK?

UPDATE: Radonich Ranch and Vignette Events turned into a nightmare of a situation and I ended up not booking my wedding there. Read more about that here: {Venue Nightmare} Radonich Ranch and Vignette Events. I went to see the Vignette Vintage Ranch this weekend! It was definitely the majority pick from all of you on Friday. I was thinking that it would be very hard to incorporate my vision and style into this space, but after talking with a few of my bridesmaids, I realized that everything I have been talking about from the keys and the pie favors, to fire-pits and the burlap inspiration are all things that would be perfect in this venue! I guess I never really knew what my inspiration and vision really was!

So, now to take you through the venue :) I will warn you in advance though, there is definitely some good news and some bad news. (PS-these are iPhone pics, so they are not all that good.)

This tree is in the middle right when you walk in. I know that Ian would love to have horseshoes at the wedding as we just got them in our backyard and they are all obsessed! We could use this tree for a bunch of signs pointing all different directions, which would be super cute!

This is the ceremony spot. The backdrop is great, rolling mountains as far as you can see. The spot in front is all grass, which I don't hate and isn't a deal-breaker, but I don't love all that much. I think I could make this alter pretty cute, but it's definitely my least favorite part of the spot.

This is just a picture to give an idea of the amount of space, greenery, picture spots, etc. The ceremony spot is on the left.

You can kind of see the ceremony spot to the right, and this is the bar area. They have really vintage coke freezers, which we could definitely incorporate! Kind of a cute little area over there.

This is the ranch area! Super rustic, but I will tell you that it looks sooo much better in person! This would be the cocktail area. There is an indoor bar, an old vintage furnace, and benches lining the walls! Super cute little area.

Standing on the ranch veranda, you look out on the barn. I love the barn! I was thinking that we could use the space between the ranch and the barn for the fire-pits, s'mores, cigars, etc. At night we can open the barn doors (on the left) and dancing could take place inside while the fire-pits are going outside.  That way everyone is together even if not everyone wants to do the same thing!

This is the inside of the barn. It is just super simple and could offer SO many really amazing decor plans. Literally an empty slate!

So there you have it! The place was quiet and serene and overall amazing! I could see every aspect of the wedding fitting in perfectly here, and I could really picture it all. I could picture the people, the set-up, the decor, everything!

Now for the downside of it all. I was so excited and ready to book. The venue coordinator called me and I told her I was ready to pick a date and send her the deposit immediately. Can you believe it??? I had decided on a venue! I was beyond excited. So what changed? I asked her about fire-pits, and guess what, that's a no. They don't allow fire because of the mountains and greenery. She did say that she would check since she heard how upset I was about that one aspect. So, there is still the possibility especially if I do it in April as there is more rain so the dryness isn't an issue. So, hopefully I'll find out soon!

Otherwise, I have to make the decision if I need the fire-pits that much to find a whole new venue, or if I should just figure out something that would be just as awesome. Any suggestions??

PS: I love that someone agrees with me on the name Brooklyn...and I totally agree about the backyard thing. Thanks for the letter :) I really do totally feel like I totally understand. <3

{Help} Narrowing Down the Venues!

I am about to get amazingly personal with all of you, so I sure hope you’re ready for it! I have been so venue-challenged, and I feel like it is only getting worse. It has been almost 8 months and I swear, if I don’t find one soon, I’m giving up! So, I am going to lay it all out here for all of you with the hope that some feedback is just what I need to pick the right place!I started this wedding planning process with the idea that I could do the wedding for $10,000. Now, that may be a very popular number these days for those budget brides, but I never thought that $10,000 would mean giving up my Vera Wang, my fire pit and lounge areas, or all the other million things I wanted. And let me say this in my defense, I never would have had to. I’m smart, resourceful and very DIY handy. I know it could have been done. So, why am I not doing that? Well, because I woke up to the amount of work it would take and the amount of hours I work in a week (well over 100) and I just realized that I would burn myself to the bone. I don’t have the time like I used to.

So, fine. I got over that and I upped the budget. I let the parents and everyone help out and we came to yet another agreement, which sounded fair enough. The only problem is that I can’t get the REASON behind the $10,000 budget out of my head. That’s a lot of money. Really, it is! So, where do I draw the line? That’s the problem I keep struggling with.

Ok, now onto the venues, I have three solid options at this point. Read my pros and cons and let me know what you think!

  1. Ventana Inn

I absolutely love this place (remember when I talked about it before), but it is definitely the most expensive! I would get one terrace for both ceremony and reception. The terrace holds 80 people total. This means I am cutting my guest list by 50! (We both have big families). So let’s say I can cut the guest list, those 80 chosen ones are still going to cost $75 per plate for dinner. This is not a bad number, but adding the drinks on is a whole new story! For 2 hours of open bar, it costs $35. 2 hours! OMG, that’s insane. So unless I want to be tacky and make an announcement that everyone needs to literally stock up, I have to pay $10 per hour per person after those two hours. And what about during dinner, during speeches. My 2 hours includes people not being able to stand because of speeches! Lame.Roughly, I will probably end up spending $150 per head for everything including 30% of random dumb extra charges. So, all in all, this wedding scenario will cost me $14,200 for 80 guests. 20 of which are in the bridal party!

Not to mention all of that, the rooms at this place are about $500 per night! I just can’t make my guests do that. So, I would have to research a cute Inn near by.

This one is definitely the splurge and probably my favorite option, if I had the money for it and was comfortable spending that!

  1. Vignette Vintage Ranch

UPDATE: Radonich Ranch and Vignette Events turned into a nightmare of a situation and I ended up taking this option out entirely. Read more about the details: {Venue Nightmare} Radonich Ranch and Vignette Events.

This spot is great, but it’s not 100% my style. I am definitely more a fan of the refined, classy, chic look. It’s a little harder for me to think with rustic, vintage, distressed, and shabby looks. Every wedding I see makes me crave a ranch wedding though, which is why this place is in the running. Only Beer and Wine (but it is BYO meaning I will save literally thousands of dollars!) caterer is $86 per person. It is all inclusive with tables, chairs, linens, taxes, etc. etc. etc. That’s sooooo nice! But, I have a feeling this venue just isn’t the nicest vintage barn. But does that matter?? Chandeliers, lanterns, couches and fire pits should handle that just fine! This one would be about $13,000 for 100 guests including everything. Cheaper and more guests, but definitely not as nice.

Photos: Vignette Website

  1. My parent’s backyard

You may have heard me bring this up before. Well, its definitely still in my mind! My thought is that I would do WHATEVER I wanted and go a little psychotic on the details and the décor. Heck, I have months to do all the prep work. I would save so much money finding my own caterer and bringing in my own drinks. It would be half the cost roughly. So, I decided the one thing that could make me fall in love with this idea would be to plexi-glass the pool and make it the dance floor!  It would be the splurge of the event, but it would be INCREDIBLE! I would still be spending under $14,000 to do food and everything including the plexi-glass.

The con is definitely that it is not set up for a wedding, so it makes it far more difficult. I would want to find a place for the ceremony that wasn’t the house. I’ll have to research some places around the area. The other problem is that there are no epic photo spots. I want some great photos and the backyard just won’t provide that for me. This is definitely a huge consideration of mine!

Check this for ALL the pictures of my parents backyard!

So there you have it.

I would LOVE to hear thoughts and suggestions, ideas or even other venues you think I must see! I need some help ehre, and I am turning to the people that have been riding this wedding planning wave with me for the past 7 months! I know you guys know what I want, what a great wedding is, and what the best decision is-so go for it!

Thanks !

It's the Small Things

My favorite part to planning is to find the perfect little thing that works for the exact detail I am looking for. Something that will probably be overlooked by the general guest, but something that I will look over, notice is there, and smile a little bit at myself. It's going to be a great day. I have decided a few things! Me! Deciding things! Weird huh?? Well, I have finally picked the style I want and the general vision of the wedding. Now if only someone would make a venue that fits my needs because at this point, it doesn't really exist if you ask me.

I have already talked a bit about the centerpieces and table numbers I love. For some reason this is one of the most important parts to me, and something that I really want to have be exactly right. I have showed you table numbers I like, and centerpieces I like, and I am here to show a few more!

Ventana Inn, Possible Venue Spot???

As you can probably imagine, I am driving myself crazy with this venue search! Holy Moly this is just getting ridiculous! So, I have decided to just go flat out and look for a place until I find one. I am having 2 major problems when finding a venue: First is that I can't find a place with my true style with what I really want. Some are close, but have some great big draw backs that just won't work. My second problem is just that I am not willing to completely overpay for a place. I just can't do it and feel good about myself, which makes finding a reasonable venue that much harder.

I found this place again today and remembered how much I like it. I looked at the numbers and so far, they don't seem that bad actually. I know that the place will probably not be as great as it seems at first glance, but as of now, I'm in love with this place, so I'll consider it for a moment longer!

Ventana Inn in Big Sur, CA

The view from the reception Terrace.

The Gorgeous Fire Pit area! Seeing as firepits and s'more making is one of my favorite ideas ever, I am really happy to see that they have a space for that!

Here is the option of having a reception at the firepit spot, or I could just do the cocktail hour there, then come back for dancing!

Pie Favors

I have said before that I want to do apple pies as my wedding favors. I mean, look how cute these are! Source: Martha Stewart, Finsihing Touches Event Design, Elizabeth Anne Designs

Now the next question is, how do I display these lovelies?? I actually really like the idea of doing a dessert table type design but putting all the favors there instead. Since the pies are fairly large, it would fill up literally a whole table of cake plates and cupcake tiers.

Source: Martha Stewart Weddings

I am going to add a really cute little "thank you" tag on each :) I think that would be so cute. The only issue I see with these is, how are people going to bring them home?? Obviously they aren't going to eat them right then...well, I hope not! But, you can't just put a pie in your purse and walk out the door!

So I had two thoughts on this. I could display the cakes on a dessert type table like the above and make a 3 tiered cute cake looking thing out of the mini to go boxes like the ones below. Then all the cakes on the tiers could have those super cute flags below and I could even make a few different types of pie (maybe pumpkin, and pecan or another berry one??). The tags could say "Apple" on one side and "Thank You" on the other! That would be such a cute little addition actually. When they are ready to leave they can pack away their pie in the to go box, but I will still get to do the whole epic display that I want!

The other option is making the little folded pie and putting it in a box. I could organize the boxes in a 3 tiered cake thing as well.

The first idea is better right?

Source: Martha Stewart Weddings, Twig and Thistle, Emerald Green Weddings

Ok-such a cute idea right? I have to say that it is going to be A LOT of work....but it's probably so worth it!

Backyard Wedding??

In my Wednesday post, I was talking about the possibility of a backyard wedding at my parent's house. I was asked to show some pictures of the space to give you guys a bit more of an idea of what I am talking about. Here you go! Oh and by the way we would obviously get the backyard in tip-top shape. It is currently still in winter-coming-into-spring mode.

There is ample street parking, some even offer up their driveways for extra parking. :)

Here are pictures of the front yard. I sort of like the idea of having it on the front lawn, but with cars everywhere, that might just look dumb in pictures.

People would enter through the left gate (right now being filled with BBQ's). This area would be perfect for the sign in space as well as the gift table. Cute lights could be strung from the house to the fence.

This would most likely be the ceremony spots. As you can see there are ample trees so I think it would be amazing to string tons of lights from the house roof to the trees or the fence. I would sort of create a "ceiling" for the backyard by adding SO many strings of lights!

This door goes to the dining room, where I would put all the food. The pool would be filled with rose petals and candles floating all around! Gorgeous.

Here are the pics of the backyard. There is actually a whole other side to the lawn where the reception portion would take place. The dance floor would go behind the pool and there is a wet bar inside for drinks!

(Pic from the Engagement Party!)

Thanks for all the comments from you guys gave me some really good things to think about for sure! I think I could plan a great wedding for under $10,000 in this space and still have it be gorgeous. My main cons: I want the 3-day trip and I don't want myself or my family to be stuck with all the clean up! eeks!

Thanks for the input, definitely need to set the venue in stone really soon!

Backyard Weddings -Pros and Cons

I have been talking a bit about having a backyard wedding, so I wanted to bring my pro's and con's over to the blog to get some feedback!

Pros: There would be no site fee! The other place we were looking at doing the wedding would be $2650 in site fees. Instead, we could spend some of that money decking out my mom's backyard by planting flowers, repairing pool tiles, and generally making improvements to my mom's house. I know that sounds incredibly boring, but I would love nothing more than eliminating site fees and letting my parents make home improvements.

Con: The space is not set up for a wedding. Some things included in the site fee would still have to be purchased - chairs, tables, dance floor, etc. All these things will have to be brought in, which will cost some money, but not $2650. Since the space is not set up for weddings, the placement of things can become awkward. It will definitely be more challenging for me to plan.

Pro: More flexibility with everything! We could bring our own wine, find our own caterer, etc etc. This cuts costs quite a bit. Also, there are no time constraints or guest minimum and maximums. The money that I save getting a cheaper caterer can go toward inviting more guests, which I would love to do.

Con: We are much more on our own. No site personnel would be there to offer suggestions and help with planning. It is entirely up to us! This basically means a lot more work for all of us which can add much more stress.

Pro: my parent's bathroom is pretty awesome. We could get some extremely amazing pictures if us getting ready in that bathroom, I would even get one of those velvet Victorian chairs.

Con: I wanted our wedding to be a 3 day trip for some of the wedding guests, and this is just not that. I did however find gorgeous villas not too far away that we could all stay at which would still create a 3 day trip experience. There is also a nice hotel right by the house for out-of-town guests. I want to do a day-after brunch, but going to an area we are semi-familiar with just doesn't sound like that much fun! It's all about exploring :)

As you can tell- I have been thinking about this a lot! I am beyond stressed about finding a venue as I have wasted so much time already :( I will post pictures of all these places soon, but rest assured they are all gorgeous so the main issue is with the logstics, not with what I could do with these spaces.

So, Do I put tons of time and effort and planning into my parent's backyard to create a gorgeous DIY amazing wedding that is incredibly personalized???

Or do I go with some structure and build my wedding around what they already have, which would still be just as DIY and personalized but would be a little bit more "normal wedding"???

Or do I just forget about it and elope?? (believe me-I've thought about it once or twice!)

Reusable Wedding Decor

As I have talked about in the past, I plan to make the most of my wedding by make almost every part of my wedding functional after the wedding is over. My house style and wedding style don't differ very much, so everything that goes in my wedding, will then be used for a house makeover! I plan to double the bang for my buck by using everything twice, not to mention the fact that this eco-friendly way of planning my wedding will save more than just money.

Love the table number attached to the pitcher. These colors are amazing!

I am thinking about centerpieces right now. This is probably the easiest part in terms of functionality because vases can always be at home. I was thinking of doing a pitcher with some baker's twine around it.Pitchers are so different in terms of centerpiece vases. These ones from Crate and Barrel are amazing and the one with the Fluer De Lys is my all time favorite! It is from Anthropologie and is $28 each! If I used them for the centerpieces I would have to buy 10, which would be quite expensive!

Pitchers are completely functional after the wedding. Pitchers are always needed for entertaining, or I could enjoy some homemade lemonade outdoors in the summer. I can also use them as vases and add them to the fireplace mantel or on wall shelves. See lots of ideas!

PS: Check out the full post about reusing wedding decor!